Ragnar’s Second Therapy Class

Ragnar came to class straight from an evening visitation he was requested for and still managed to do a commendable job staying alert and involved. This week we worked quite a bit with the students’ abilities to maintain composure and hold commands amidst distractions. Distractions included loud and unusual noises, people moving around the dogs, items rolling across the floor, food shown to the dogs and other commotion that is often distracting to pets. We practiced the familiar exercise of moving around a set of cones which involved sitting and turning at certain points while walking on a loose leash and Ragnar did a wonderful job. It was evident by the end of class that Rags was worn out and ready for a good night’s sleep. While Hope was answering some questions from the other doggy parents, Ragnar made his way behind our chairs to curl up and close his eyes. We’re proud of our hard-working boy and all the progress he’s made!

Ragnar’s First Therapy Class

The first week of therapy dog class for Ragnar went great. Three of his classmates from the Canine Good Citizen class are in this class, along with four other friendly dogs. Week 1 was an introduction to what the expectations and requirements are for getting certified as a therapy dog, plus some review of what we covered in the CGC class. The therapy dog certification test is actually about 80% the same as the CGC test, so Ragnar already has a great foundation for his upcoming test. We found out we’ll be doing some field trips in this class, such as visiting a nursing home or some other facility where therapy dogs can gain some hands-on experience. Ragnar will definitely have a great time with that! Stay tuned to hear about next week’s class.

Ragnar’s Final CGC Class

Thursday night was the big night for Mr. Ragnar…test night! After six weeks of class, plus plenty of practicing at home and around the office, the final exam finally arrived. We are thrilled to announce that our sweet, hard-working man completed every one of the exercises in the test, flawlessly! The “Ragamuffin” passed with flying colors and is officially a Canine Good Citizen. The final phase of Ragnar’s therapy dog certification will be a six-week therapy-specific course, at the completion of which he will take the exam to receive his degree. We’re so proud of Ragnar not just for his outstanding job in the CGC class, but for all of the time and effort he has enthusiastically put into his work over the past year. He truly loves people and loves comforting those in need. We’re overjoyed that Ragnar gets to work in a capacity that allows our clients, visitors, and staff to all benefit from his presence. This kind soul is already a friend to so many people, and we look forward to his many years of service ahead. Stay tuned to follow along on Ragnar’s upcoming therapy dog class!

Ragnar’s 5th Class

The fifth class served mainly as a review in preparation for the test that will be conducted in the sixth and final class. The dogs and their handlers went through each part of the test as a sort of dry run so everyone will know which areas their dog might need a little more practice in before week six.

Ragnar handled most of the exercises nicely but was a bit distracted during the drill that requires him to walk on a loose leash around a series of cones. He stopped to sniff a spot on the floor that attracted the snouts of his classmates the whole evening, and he wanted to keep an eye on some of his friends who went outside for a bathroom break but were visible through the windows. Aside from his wandering attention during this one exercise, Ragnar demonstrated a reassuring preparedness for his final examination. His naturally inquisitive spirit sometimes steals his focus, but our buddy has come a long way with his ability to resist distractions.

We think Ragnar’s curiosity is a great asset when he’s at work though, it helps him pay close attention to the people around him. If he spots someone who is exceptionally emotional or behaving out of the ordinary, he will diligently go to visit with them. When he sometimes works off leash, he will often do this even without being prompted. Ragnar is truly a sweet, attentive boy!

Ragnar’s 4th Class

This was the fourth week of Ragnar’s six-week Canine Good Citizen class, and our favorite good boy made us proud once again! He and his classmates spent time reviewing some of the lessons from previous weeks and started some new material too. Raggy-boy had a bath earlier in the day, so he was looking and smelling like a million bucks for class. One of the new skills we practiced was the dog staying in a seated or down position while the handler walked across the room, and then walking to the handler when summoned. Ragnar was able to do this with no problem, even amidst the barks and movement of a few of his classmates. Later the dogs practiced staying in a seated position next to their handler while a friendly stranger approached and greeted the handler/dog unit. Ragnar, despite being just under three years old, is such a sleepy old man at heart. As he waited for Candice to make her way around the room greeting the other dogs and humans, Rags tried multiple times to lay down. Mitzi would bring him back up to a seated position, and a minute later he would start to make his way back down to the floor. I think we can safely say Ragnar has no trouble remaining in one place when told to stay! Ragnar’s ultra-mellow and borderline lazy disposition might be a little sluggish for some of the exercises he does in class, but we think it’s perfect for his line of work. He loves to lay down at people’s feet and let them love on him, and he is so gentle you can trust him around even the tiniest of children!

Ragnar’s Third Class

Ragnar seems to have settled into his class comfortably at this point and is noticeably better at staying focused and avoiding distractions from the dogs and humans around him. In class this week, the students practiced walking through a crowd of people. The dogs had to continue walking obediently — not straying from the course, jumping or doing anything else that dogs often do when walking through a crowd. Ragnar is well accustomed to crowded areas in his line of work as a Grief Therapy Dog, so this was nothing out of the ordinary for him. He and his classmates also practiced walking with their humans around an obstacle course, where they did figure eights, sits and sharp turns at certain points. Rags was on his best behavior here too, and managed to resist detouring over to play with his classmates as he passed by them! Ragsy is such a mellow guy that if a trainer was to find fault with him, it would probably be that he is a little slothful. One of the exercises we work on each week is greeting a friendly stranger who approaches and wishes to pet the dog. The tendencies many young dogs have, that require correcting, is jumping on the person or getting excited in some way. Ragnar, on the other hand, will often be laying down and hardly react at all if someone approaches. We’ve always joked about him being an old soul, but it really is true. He would make a great beach bum!

Ragnar’s Second CGC Class

March 7. Ragnar had a productive second Canine Good Citizen class and did a great job with the new lessons introduced by Hope and her assistant, Candice.

The first scenario Ragnar and his classmates were tested with was approaching and greeting a friendly stranger. This, of course, is nothing new to Ragnar, since he interacts with dozens of strangers every day at work! Slightly more difficult for Rags was his next classroom objective…being left to wait with another person holding his leash as me and my Mom, Mitzi leaves the room. He definitely likes to be with his family, so this one was clearly not his favorite. He stayed patiently with Candice though, and let her walk him around the room while Mom and I were in the hallway, out of sight. The last exercise of the night was one in which we approach each other from opposite directions with our dogs walking alongside us. As each person and their dog reached each other, we stopped and shook hands. Before exchanging greetings, we instructed the dogs to stop and sit. Despite Ragnar’s natural inclination to happily greet every passing dog, he did a commendable job during this as he resisted his instincts and waited patiently for the humans to greet each other. All in all, it was a good class for Rags! Before class, he had worked a visitation at the funeral home for two hours and came straight to class, so he was a little tired. During some of the exercises, Ragnar took the liberty of laying down and resting his eyes until it was his turn to perform. “A well-rested therapy dog is a happy and helpful therapy dog!” said Ragnar.

Ragnar’s First Class

February 28: Along with his human, Sam Oakey, IV and Sam’s Mom, Mitzi, Ragnar attended his first Canine Good Citizen class. Hope from High Hopes Dog Training teaches this class at Green Ridge Recreation Center.

Ragnar’s first class went great! There are eight dogs in the class and Rags is definitely one of the best behaved. Six of the dogs are related (mother and five children) and then there’s a German Shepherd separate from them. Raggy, the shepherd, and the mother dog of the kids are all trained pretty well, but the five brothers and sisters were younger and definitely have a lot of practicing to do in the next six weeks. Hope, the trainer, met Ragnar the week before at my parents’ house for a private lesson so she used him to demonstrate several of the commands we worked on last week (sit, lay down, stay, and “break/release”) and he performed perfectly. My mom and I were even impressed, since this was in a room with seven other dogs and some of them were whining, moving around, wanting to play, etc. Ragnar made friends with Corinne, one of the girl dogs from the big family. After class, one of Corinne’s brothers attacked Ragnar twice in a row when his owner brought him over to meet Rags. Rags did great though. He didn’t fight back or really even react at all other than moving away from the dog. The funniest thing that happened was when Hope was going through the commands with another dog, about 10 feet away, Ragnar was following along from where we were sitting (probably hoping for a treat!) He’d sit, lay, etc. when she instructed the other dog to do so. He was definitely getting into it and I think he enjoys the mental stimulation of learning. The picture of Ragnar by himself is in the lobby of Green Ridge before class. The collage photo is his class composite!

New Help Fur You

With 42 years under my belt and a reputation for being somewhat reluctant to change, you can imagine my reaction in 2016 when my son acquired a dog he pronounced would one day be a “grief therapy dog” at Oakey’s. Heck, I wasn’t even sure what a grief therapy dog WAS, so I sure as heck wasn’t immediately keen on the idea of allowing a canine to mix with our grieving families.

Sam spent the next couple of years at mortuary school in Nashville, and I figured by the time he returned to work in Roanoke he would have shelved the idea of his English Golden Retriever coming to work every day at our family firm.  Wrong!  And that wasn’t all I was wrong about:  Sam’s dog, Ragnar has been an incredible success with every family requesting him!

A member of my funeral study group from Columbus, Ohio related his experiences at Schoedinger Funeral Home with their grief therapy dog, and how the idea had caught on in a massive way. So I was willing to give “Rags” a shot here to show me he could actually help families at their hardest time. It didn’t take long before I was telling young Sam how wrong I had been to approach the idea of a grief therapy dog with such skepticism. Ragnar is now being requested multiple times a week and has been a calming influence on dozens of our families.

The idea is actually quite simple: our funeral directors make families aware of the availability of Ragnar and ask if each family would want Ragnar to be present for a visitation or service. We explain that the presence of a grief therapy dog can be beneficial to all in the immediate area, and that stroking a dog can lower blood pressure rates, stress, and ease respiration. Not just any dog can do this; my own border collie mix Stella would probably spaz out everyone in the building with her nervous energy!

Ragnar is actually still in training to receive his official certification as a grief therapy dog, but is getting plenty of practice until then. While I have not heard one negative thing about the concept, Rags has received tons of compliments, kind letters, and even gifts from grateful relatives of decedents. All of our staff members have fallen in love with this big, white creature who has one of the best dispositions of any animal I have ever seen. He seems to know just what to do when he is on the job, and has a particular affinity for kids. But Rags is equally adept at putting a smile on the faces of seniors and those with special needs.

To say that the entire concept has bowled me over would be an understatement. I have gone from rolling my eyeballs at the thought of a dog in the funeral home to being one of Ragnar’s biggest proponents. Having Ragnar at a visitation or funeral is a complimentary service we offer at Oakey’s, but the demand is beginning to outweigh his availability. We may one day have to acquire a second dog to help those going through grief, bereavement, and mourning. But no matter how cute, smart, and sweet that second dog might be, he could never win over the hearts of those at Oakey’s like Ragnar has!

“Why did your people call me in the middle of the night after the death in my family?”

“Why did your people call me in the middle of the night after the death in my family?”

That comment, or a variation of it, is probably the single biggest question or complaint I get at Oakey’s. It comes in the grocery store, in church, and on the comment sheets that families use to respond to me about our quality of service. It comes in phone calls, letters, or personal interactions on the the Roanoke Greenway or at hockey games. I can certainly understand why a family might be curious or even annoyed about this topic. Someone they love has just passed away, and a stranger is on the other end of their phone expressing their condolences and asking about embalming permission. The answer is one I am proud to recite as it showcases yet another example of the high level of service Oakey’s is known for.

Many (probably MOST) funeral homes these days do not have an on-duty staff at night; if a death occurs at a hospital, the funeral home will simply leave the decedent in the morgue overnight and send an employee to pick up the body the next day. These funeral homes use “on call” staff members only to go to a home or nursing facility when they are notified about a death there. Some even contract out body removals to a third-party agency.

At Oakey’s, we do things very differently. With no disrespect intended toward the fine hospitals in our region, I would not want my loved one to be taken to one of their morgues and left overnight. A morgue is cold, dark, and usually has other bodies in close proximity to one another. Having a contingent of our associates working all night long gives us at Oakey’s the ability to respond with swiftness and dignity to each and every death in which we are notified. Whereas many other funeral homes only send one employee on a “removal,” our firm sends a minimum of two to carefully bring the decedent back into our care. Again, our family believes that dignity is a key ingredient to everything we do. This certainly includes the manner in which we physically take custody of a recently deceased individual.

I know I have not even begun to answer the aforementioned question yet, but I feel the average person needs a primer in order to have a full understanding of what happens when we receive a phone call informing us that our services are needed. Our policy is to contact a family as soon as we are notified by a hospital, hospice worker, or nursing/retirement community about a death. The main reason for this initial call is to establish whether or not the next of kin wishes for their loved one to be embalmed. It’s a fact that the sooner a body is embalmed, the better the results will be. However, if a family is considering cremation or anatomical donation, embalming would simply be an unnecessary expense. This is the crux of that first call we make to a family, in addition to expressing our sympathy for their loss. Unfortunately, we are often notified about a death by a hospital several hours AFTER the person has breathed their last breath. In the middle of the night, this often results in our making a call to a family right as they are attempting to go back to sleep after learning about a death. Needless to say, this has upset a number of folks in our community, and they have certainly let me know about their strong feelings.

Thankfully, their queries allow me to explain exactly WHY we make the call that can sometimes come in the middle of the night. After hearing “the rest of the story,” families have a better understanding of our reason for calling, but they also go away reinforced they received the superior service that our company has provided for 152 years now.