an odd place for humor

Sammy Oakey, President When one thinks of a funeral home, it’s quite natural to summon up visions of tears, Kleenex, anguish, and long faces. And while we see plenty of these behaviors every day, it’s not totally out of the question to see smiles and hear laughter coming from our chapel or visitation rooms. Humor Read more…

Here Comes the Son

Summer vacation: when picnics, ice cream trucks, and baseball games integrate themselves into society. It’s also the time of year when swarms of high school and college students look for jobs before trudging back to class in late August. Like myself (and my father before me), my son Sam IV has learned it’s easier to Read more…

Traces of Love

One of my favorite songs from the past is by a group called the Classics IV, and it’s full of imagery concerning items that a guy has kept that reminds him of his old girlfriend. Ribbons from her hair, the ring she used to wear, faded photographs, tickets torn in half, and pages from an Read more…

When a Young Person Dies

Being in the death care profession for over 35 years has prepared me for many of the duties I must perform on a daily basis. Working with families that have lost a loved one is never (and shouldn’t be) “easy”, but it’s considerably less traumatic for those left behind if the decedent is in their eighties Read more…

Staying Out of the Fray

It’s the political season again, and everyone seems to have an opinion on who we should vote for in November. I certainly don’t mind opinions, but I do get a bit agitated when folks want to literally HAMMER their points of view into my noggin. The negativity, name calling, and out and exaggerations/lies being told Read more…

How Much?

  It’s something that  happens nearly every day, and sometimes multiple times in a day. The telephone  at our funeral home rings (or chirps, or whatever you want to call that  super-annoying sound it emits!). Upon our answering the phone, the caller  makes a basic inquiry about the cost of a service. The question is Read more…

Telephone Tightrope

We all knew the day was fast approaching. We had in fact been warned it was imminent. Our trusty 44 extension phone system with ten outside lines and two inside lines was nearing the end of the road. Parts for the twelve year old system were getting hard to come by, and it was impossible Read more…

Sorry, I Can’t Tell You That.

Privacy. It’s important in any workplace, but of paramount importance in a funeral home. I can remember one of the first things my grandfather “Pops” told me when I came to work back in 1976: “What you see here and what you hear here, STAYS here!”. Being a staff member at a funeral home causes Read more…

Laughs in the Limo

If you had been driving along 220 South this morning, you might have seen an Oakey’s Funeral Service limousine zipping up the road with six children, fifteen balloons, and a box of Dunkin’ Munchkins inside. Anyone who believed they had witnessed this sight probably thought they were mistaken. They weren’t! Over the past ten years, I have Read more…

I Know It

I was told that as a youngster, my dad’s sister Gayle would answer “I know” (or maybe it was “I know it”) to anything her father or mother tried to tell her. While I don’t remember verbalizing those words as my parents or grandparents would try to teach me something, I certainly had them in Read more…

Pizza Parlors and Funeral Homes Commonalities

As much as I love pizza, I think I love those new Domino’s commercials even better. You know, the ones where the owner shows actual consumer photographs of delivered Domino’s pizzas that look terrible. Pies stuck to the box top, pies that have slid around in the box, and pies horribly out of shape. After Read more…

Happy Holidays??

Brightly colored lights.  Wrapping paper and gifts.  Manger scenes, complete with live animals.  Egg Nog and butter cookies.  Yeah, it’s that time of year again and who couldn’t enjoy the Christmas season?  Well, someone who has just lost a loved one, that’s who.  While we don’t like to think about it, death takes no holidays Read more…